What is an HMO?

Finding the insurance company that is right for you, and that will accept you, can be difficult. In addition to learning about what it will cost, you need to find out what kind of health insurance that company is offering you. One of the most popular forms of health insurance is something called an HMO. What is an HMO? It stands for Health Maintenance Organization. The HMO contracts specific doctors and hospitals to provide health care for a discounted price to the people who purchased the HMO insurance. The doctors and hospitals, in return, are expecting to get more patients … Continue reading

Tackling Mount Washmore: Easy Laundry Solutions

It is amazing how quickly laundry piles up isn’t it? Just like Hercules, you no sooner get to the end when it build right back up again. If you dread the task of doing laundry, try the following easy solutions to make your life a little bit easier. Get into a morning routine. Throw one load of laundry into your washer each morning as part of your routine. Then, hang or put the laundry in the dryer when it is done or at the end of the day. Fold and put them away the same day. If you do one … Continue reading

Month in Review: July 2008 Adoption Blogs, Part One

The first week of July I shared how my daughter asked if she could be president some day and I had to say probably not. Mommy, Can I Be the President Some Day? tells this story and The Natural-Born Citizen Act tells of an attempted remedy for this law. Ensuring Our Children’s Proof of Citizenship, and, A Little Ceremony Could Have Been a Good Thing talks about getting a Certificate of Citizenship, and about my nostalgia for a naturalization ceremony even while I recognize that the automatic citizenship law of 2001 is a good thing. I share yet another profound … Continue reading

Month in Review: May in the Adoption Blog, Part One

This month I reported on several conversations I’ve had with my kids. Three of them were basically the “how babies are made” conversations, humorous but revealing insights into what my kids thought at different ages. You can read what I responded at each age and decide if you do, or don’t, want to base my answers on yours! First I had to deal with my older son’s questions about babies and his shock to realize that not all of them (including himself!) were Korean. This story is told in Where Babies Come From, or, Don’t Fall Asleep on an Airplane. … Continue reading

Is Schmoozing a Thing of the Past?

When I was a kid and I watch some of my favorite television shows like “Bewitched”—it seemed that all the business that Darren accomplished was done by “schmoozing”—dinner parties and lunches where it seemed that the conversation was seldom about work. I was led to believe that this was how business relationships were nurtured and this was how business was done. In my early years of working and in the years I worked as a fundraiser and development person for nonprofit agencies, it was still assumed that “schmoozing” was how to get things done. From what I have been reading … Continue reading

Reading and Thinking about Birthmothers

Reviewing all these adoption books has got me wondering. I’ve always read adoption books to the kids, but not ones that focus on birthmothers as much as the ones I’ve been reading lately. Over and over I read interviews with adopted teens and adults saying that they were curious about their birthparents and longed to talk about them, but their adoptive parents didn’t seem open and/or the kids feared hurting the adopted parents’ feelings. Social workers now seem to counsel parents to speak openly about birthparents. Recently a spate of books dealing with birthparents have been published, such as Mommy … Continue reading

What Would You Like to See in the Adoption Blog This Next Year?

What Would You Like to See in the Adoption Blog This Next Year? This blog will be a little different. I’m asking for comments from you, my readers. What has been helpful to you in the adoption blog this year? What would you like to see more of? More personal experience and reflections? More informational blogs? I, for one, would like to see more comments by readers, both in the blog comments and in the forums. The forums are a great tool to ask questions which I can then address in blogs. As many of you know, I have two … Continue reading

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Five

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last four blogs contain the first four parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: The moon was full that night too. Even though it wasn’t the first full moon of the New Year, I went and looked at it anyway. I thought about what I wanted for you. I want you to have a mother and a father, brother and sister, grandmother and grandfather, aunts and uncles and cousins. I want you to have … Continue reading

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Four

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last three blogs contain the first three parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: You had to stay in the hospital for a while because you were small. For a few days I saw you every day, and then I went back to my friend’s house. I came back to visit you the next three days, then I went to stay with a friend who lived farther away and didn’t see you for the … Continue reading

Imaginary Birthmother’s Letter, Part Three

This is the continuation of a letter I imagined a birthmother might write. The last two blogs contain the first two parts. Again, this is my imagination and is not based on any birthmother that I know. The letter continues: When my friends came home they took me to the hospital. You were born in a tiny room. A doctor and nurse were there when you were born. The doctor made sure you were breathing all right, and then he took you to the nursery, where you stayed in the incubator because you were so tiny. The nurse could tell … Continue reading